Sex Work can be Beautiful
Today I had a client, a guy that I would totally do everything that I did for him, for free. He was good smelling, in his 30's, sexy furry body. His clothes were off, mine were on.
I asked him if he wanted me to touch him for my pleasure or for his. Of course the whole thing was for his pleasure, as he was paying me, but maybe he wanted to be ravished, to imagine someone was taking pleasure in his body. I said that if I was worshipping him, servicing him, then I would likely be gentler, asking more questions, playing a more submissive role.
If we were pretending it was for my pleasure, I would probably be rougher, more probing, taking, using; less asking. Taking pleasure in someone else's body can be consensual, or non consensual; in this case it was consensual. He wanted me to do just that. He wanted me to be in control; exploring, touching, stroking, teasing, seemingly for my pleasure; being a touch rough, pulling legs apart, spreading ass cheeks like a hungry animal.
I smacked his ass a few times before I asked him if he liked that. He said yes and moaned softly.
He lay belly down on the bed. I had told him to go on his knees, to raise his ass up in the air, so that I could play with his ass, and balls and cock easier. I could do almost whatever I wanted to him, except I was clothed. My dick was hard, but me being clothed emphasized the fact that his body was the focus, his body being pleasured, and yet he was the one in the vulnerable position, fully nude, ass in the air.
I love creating this opportunity for people to be vulnerable. We need help accessing this. Vulnerability is not about being alone in a locked apartment. It's about being in a revealed way, with other people. Its like being a naked child at the beach again. Its liberating to expose oneself. Our society does shame this, and provides a very few number of exceptions to this. So I feel like giving people this opportunity is so exceptional.
People can book an appointment and just receive the touch they want to receive, from someone skilled in delivering that with sensitivity and experience. It feels so good to be trusting enough that you can have someone just pleasure you like that. I know, Ive been in the position many times, on the table, hands touching me everywhere.
It takes a lot of work to create a relationship, or even convince someone to have a date or hookup. Should it really be so much work just to have some pleasure, some touch, some revealing?
And when were having sex with someone, there's this sometimes awkward dance of who's doing what for whom. Now communication based on consent culture would sort a lot of that out, although it can be a bit cumbersome. However most people aren't there yet. The majority of people, have a hard time describing their boundaries or how they would like to be touched. Most people aren't asked these things on dates. Often, sex is messy and awkward, and includes drugs, alcohol, and regret. How unfortunate.
However, when you hire a professional, its clear, who its for. The professional knows how to open you up without booze, to get you relaxed and into that turned on place. They put their full attention on your pleasure, even if that means pretending its for them. Some can also teach you about consent.
Often the client will reach for my dick. Most of the time, I say that they can touch my leg, but not my genitals. The reason is that if they are focusing on my body, then they will lose out on some of the mindfulness of their own somatic experience. But I'm curious about why people do that. Are they wanting to pleasure me too because its just so normal to be reciprocating while receiving? Is there just more pleasure for them to touch my dick? The point that I'm trying to drive home here, is the beauty of being able to just receive pleasure; to be touched and pleasured, and held, without needing to reciprocate. The money exchange is the reciprocation. Sometimes, frequently, I would do it even if I wasnt being paid; because sex work can be beautiful.