Crisis can break and make us. To really become more than we are, we have to crack our old shell, break out of our holding patterns, find out what were made of and tap into our inner resources.
A few years ago I was on the verge of a total mental break down. I was working myself to an early death, totally unsatisfied in many areas of my life.
Although I was frightened to make a change, I knew I had to, or face a fate worse than death. Working in geriatric nursing, I often saw what I believed to be the results of lives of fear and inhibition; sickness and misery. This is a big generalization, but who of us lives a life fearlessly, without resentment, shame or inhibition. I believe the effects of these emotions over many decades are health destroying.
I started on a path of following my bliss. At first I didn't entirely know what that was. I had some ideas, and I knew that I wanted to make it sustainable, meaning I needed to make money doing it. I've had the idea in my head that I wanted to do something for work that I would do even if I wasn't paid for it.
I thought about the things that feel good for me, that make me smile, that lift my heart and make me feel healthy in my body and mind. This unfolded in a non linear way in the following years. I really could not anticipate to what degree that would play out, and is still unfolding. But here I am, at a resort on a Thai island, integrating new training, and formulating how to deliver some incredibly powerful somatic tools to my clients. Someone pinch me, but not too hard please; if this is a dream, I don't want to wake up.
(my) Truth is, reality is what you make of it. Attitude is everything. We can have success along the way if we enjoy the journey.
Finding enjoyment in the process is a skill that we must practice. Gratitude, savouring, mindfulness, and suspending judgment require practice. With practice we can change our programming, our limiting patterns and habits. We can become the people we desire to be, by allowing it to happen gradually. That doesn't mean we're lazy or unmotivated; quite the opposite. We're fueled by the daily practice, the incremental progress.
So what are you doing everyday? What are you practising? What are your goals and why do you want what you want? Make sure that you think of them in the right mindset. You want that thing because you think you will feel better in the having of it. Try not to frame it in the negative, such as you want to get rid of something. That's hardly motivating. Live a life fueled by excitement, with desire, with pleasure; even if its just the idea of those things. Ideas are powerful and ideas that you maintain become beliefs.
Believe in yourself. Invest in yourself. Take the opportunity to try something new.
Because the forces at work, are bringing change; tremendous change. We are on the verge of crisis; emergence-see, challenge and opportunity. We have been in a sleepy pupa state for a long time. Now we face the death of our old selves and emergence into a new world of possibility.
My advice is to begin where you are. Find motivation within yourself. What excites you? What do you desire for yourself? Find gratitude for the moments of pleasure that you do have. Noticing those will open a door. Practice getting into a receptive state; a relaxed, peaceful, sensual body awareness. Take time for self care. Its easier than you might think.
If you would like some support with this, please contact me for a free consultation or book an intro session. Be well.